My True Romance - Chapter three "You funny, hey" The dating Do's and Dont's

 "I'm always smiling hey"

Laughter, they say, is "the best medicine" for me laughter is one of the sexiest and best things ever. When someone gets your sense of humor and you can be silly and laugh together it is one of the most appealing, fantastic, wonderful things that can happen. And boy do I LOVE to laugh, check out my  Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/susana.kennedy.7 its just a huge smiling mouth most of the time.

Through this dating process I have realized that not only am I a clumsy klutz who gets spinach in her teeth, drops her food on the table and has bruises on her legs resembling those of a six your old rugby playing boy, but I also have a 'wicked' sense of humor which consists of some irony, blended with sarcasm, friendly bantering and a whole pile of wit. The thing is if you don't get it and you happen to take me seriously you may think I'm ...mmm... not sure of the correct term actually, but lets just say you taking me in the wrong way might not be pleasant. 

The truth is honestly, I am not a mean ass and if I do hurt someone, anyone, it is unintentional, I truly cant understand hurting someone intentionally, it makes no sense to me. I know to some people that sounds lame but its just true. Sure I have been angry and thought bad thoughts but to actually follow through and do something to purposefully hurt someone, naa, its just not me. 

So when someone - yes one of my dates, not this one though - said that I was "cold" I was quite taken aback. "Me??? Really??? You sure that message wasn't meant for someone else??? Are you sure its me you mean???" He had heard that I had said good things about him and wanted me to say more, but I being me bantered and jokingly told him not to get a big head because nobodies perfect. For some reason this upset him (even though he knew it was a joke) and his retort was to take all the little things he felt insecure about and turned them onto me and said I had done them to him and I had been mean... wow... 

In the past maybe I would have had a argument and turned into a hater, but instead I did stop and think about it all without reacting because looking at yourself honestly is important and I realized they were his insecurities which he was projecting, which I do understand, but you have only recently met me and we don't know each other so don't tell me what's wrong with me, because you don't know me and above all have a sense of humor!

Boys and girls, if it's the only thing you have going for you, have a sense of humor! Please! Taking life too seriously is just... serious... and dull... and sure, I care about very serious issues and I can speak about the most meaningful deep subjects but if you get too caught up in what's wrong in the world and how much human beings have stuffed up and forget to laugh and see the bright side of life, I'm afraid it will be a long lonely dull and heart wrenching journey. 

Mr. "You funny, Hey" and I have actually been hanging out quite a lot, I have only stayed in regular contact with two guys that I have been on a date with) "Mr. You funny, Hey" and I laugh a lot, its huge fun, warm and really nice. 

He understands where I am and that I am sticking to my guns and not getting into a relationship, so we are becoming great friends, who knows if it will turn into more or not, if it doesn't I get an absolutely awesome human being to share some laughs with and if it does, I've always believed that some of the best relationships are born out of friendships. Who knows, but at least I am doing my best to be open, at least I have a new very cool person in my life.

Harsh truth... Ok here goes! Although this is a huge step for me, going on dates and being open to meeting people and actually taking time to get to know them, I have to admit I still have walls up. As much as I don't want to, there is still a subconscious part of me that is over protective of myself, I think this protection is manifesting in the form of not being wildly attracted to anyone who is not "safe". If they are here and close to me and a possibility, its too scary, so something in me is switching off and that something, I think, is the attraction. I am sure many of you have experienced the same thing? When your subconscious allows you to be attracted to someone that is not possible, due to the fact that they live far away, or you know from the onset that you are not right for you, or... there are so many options but being with them is safe... Well the first step to change is the sub-concious becoming the conscious. Challenge accepted.

SO...

The DO's I learnt: "Laugh"

Laugh as much as possible, always. 
Without humor life is far too dull and dramatic, see the light side, be positive. 
Having a great sense of humor is in the top 5 on my list. 
and...

The DON'T I learnt: "Know before you throw"

Without really knowing someone well, don't point out their faults, even if you mean well, even if you feeling insecure or defensive, It will more than likely alienate them.

#JustSaying

So the reason I say "hey" is because it's a Durban thing, (yes he is from Durban) and I have realized I really like Durban guys, in fact I am going to do a whole blog as an ode to the Durban Boy, they are easy going, fun, non judgmental and they simply rock so hard it hurts hey.


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