My True Romance - Chapter three "You funny, hey" The dating Do's and Dont's

 "I'm always smiling hey"

Laughter, they say, is "the best medicine" for me laughter is one of the sexiest and best things ever. When someone gets your sense of humor and you can be silly and laugh together it is one of the most appealing, fantastic, wonderful things that can happen. And boy do I LOVE to laugh, check out my  Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/susana.kennedy.7 its just a huge smiling mouth most of the time.

Through this dating process I have realized that not only am I a clumsy klutz who gets spinach in her teeth, drops her food on the table and has bruises on her legs resembling those of a six your old rugby playing boy, but I also have a 'wicked' sense of humor which consists of some irony, blended with sarcasm, friendly bantering and a whole pile of wit. The thing is if you don't get it and you happen to take me seriously you may think I'm ...mmm... not sure of the correct term actually, but lets just say you taking me in the wrong way might not be pleasant. 

The truth is honestly, I am not a mean ass and if I do hurt someone, anyone, it is unintentional, I truly cant understand hurting someone intentionally, it makes no sense to me. I know to some people that sounds lame but its just true. Sure I have been angry and thought bad thoughts but to actually follow through and do something to purposefully hurt someone, naa, its just not me. 

So when someone - yes one of my dates, not this one though - said that I was "cold" I was quite taken aback. "Me??? Really??? You sure that message wasn't meant for someone else??? Are you sure its me you mean???" He had heard that I had said good things about him and wanted me to say more, but I being me bantered and jokingly told him not to get a big head because nobodies perfect. For some reason this upset him (even though he knew it was a joke) and his retort was to take all the little things he felt insecure about and turned them onto me and said I had done them to him and I had been mean... wow... 

In the past maybe I would have had a argument and turned into a hater, but instead I did stop and think about it all without reacting because looking at yourself honestly is important and I realized they were his insecurities which he was projecting, which I do understand, but you have only recently met me and we don't know each other so don't tell me what's wrong with me, because you don't know me and above all have a sense of humor!

Boys and girls, if it's the only thing you have going for you, have a sense of humor! Please! Taking life too seriously is just... serious... and dull... and sure, I care about very serious issues and I can speak about the most meaningful deep subjects but if you get too caught up in what's wrong in the world and how much human beings have stuffed up and forget to laugh and see the bright side of life, I'm afraid it will be a long lonely dull and heart wrenching journey. 

Mr. "You funny, Hey" and I have actually been hanging out quite a lot, I have only stayed in regular contact with two guys that I have been on a date with) "Mr. You funny, Hey" and I laugh a lot, its huge fun, warm and really nice. 

He understands where I am and that I am sticking to my guns and not getting into a relationship, so we are becoming great friends, who knows if it will turn into more or not, if it doesn't I get an absolutely awesome human being to share some laughs with and if it does, I've always believed that some of the best relationships are born out of friendships. Who knows, but at least I am doing my best to be open, at least I have a new very cool person in my life.

Harsh truth... Ok here goes! Although this is a huge step for me, going on dates and being open to meeting people and actually taking time to get to know them, I have to admit I still have walls up. As much as I don't want to, there is still a subconscious part of me that is over protective of myself, I think this protection is manifesting in the form of not being wildly attracted to anyone who is not "safe". If they are here and close to me and a possibility, its too scary, so something in me is switching off and that something, I think, is the attraction. I am sure many of you have experienced the same thing? When your subconscious allows you to be attracted to someone that is not possible, due to the fact that they live far away, or you know from the onset that you are not right for you, or... there are so many options but being with them is safe... Well the first step to change is the sub-concious becoming the conscious. Challenge accepted.

SO...

The DO's I learnt: "Laugh"

Laugh as much as possible, always. 
Without humor life is far too dull and dramatic, see the light side, be positive. 
Having a great sense of humor is in the top 5 on my list. 
and...

The DON'T I learnt: "Know before you throw"

Without really knowing someone well, don't point out their faults, even if you mean well, even if you feeling insecure or defensive, It will more than likely alienate them.

#JustSaying

So the reason I say "hey" is because it's a Durban thing, (yes he is from Durban) and I have realized I really like Durban guys, in fact I am going to do a whole blog as an ode to the Durban Boy, they are easy going, fun, non judgmental and they simply rock so hard it hurts hey.


Have a great weekend and Tune in this Sat from 11 till 2pm on 2OceansVibeRadio 

Catch me chatting to various woman and playing cool road trip tunes

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Mandela Day 2 Oceans Vibe Radio and Friends Pay it Forward

Today's post is a pay it forward post, I am not following any of my previous formats and I have added a lot of pictures. 

"The overarching objective of Mandela Day is to inspire individuals to take action 

to help change the world for the better, and in doing so build a global movement 

for good. Ultimately it seeks to empower communities everywhere." 

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This is the wish of our Madiba. So this year (my first in Cape town) I decided to gather the Cape Town troops and do a little something for some incredible friends of mine in Gugulethu (affectionately known as Gug's). 2oceansvibe Media were amazing and with the support of Richard Hardiman and Kirsty Solomon we began to plot a course of action.

“Take Action; Inspire Change; 

Make Every Day a Mandela Day.”

(Its funny ironic, not funny haha, that I made that the name of the event, because the actual point of Mandela Day is to inspire people to do service throughout the year, not just on Mandela Day, Mandela day should just be the starting point, a moment of inspiration which leads to ongoing action.) 

It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3.

There will be about 60 to 80 people to feed, including kids (ended up being about 100)

1. DJ’s please bring 5 -10 friends each

2. A Large pot of soup, roll’s and perhaps something sweet 

(please also remember paper cups)

and 3. Spread the word and start collecting now!

This is the Creche'

The Crèche needs:
- Blanket's
- Mattresses (Baby bed/cot mattress),
- Hot water bottles,
- Any educational toys and books for 1 to 4 year olds
(If you have educational toys or books for slightly older kids, nothing will go to waste)
They also need some general supplies, nappies, formula, baby food, baby powder, baby aqueous, etc. These are ongoing needs and so you are always encouraged to drop off supplies at our studio)

Our make-shift stage

The Kids learnt what sounds animal's make so that they could join in with the story

Kiki, Dean, Dan, Dan Green, Kelly, Rox, Benita, Loamie, Aidan and Richard holding up his camera

The Gogo's helping prep lunch: "Shew, too many roll's to butter eish"

Mamzi and me singing “Nkosi Sikelel' iAfrika” with the Kids "Remember kids, always hold your hands to your hearts kids"

The wonderful actors doing a reading of the selfish crocodile, far left Benita Doria and Loamie Van Rhyn, with guitar Vaneshran Sixface,  and The Lion narrator Thabang Ruff Sidloyi

The grumpy crocodile was played by Aidan Whytock, he was a little too convincing as the poor kids got an incredible fright. Definitely one of the guiltiest moments in my life. but once he had wipped off his mask they calmed down and really did enjoy the story - Thank Goodness!

The 2oceansvibe team and guests enjoying the play perhaps even a little more than the kids by the looks of things!
From left: Kelly Sweet, Dean Delaney, Roxanne Bennett, Daniel Green, Dan Skinstad, Vanessa Lara Wood, Richard Hardiman, Kirsty Soloman and more.

Jen enthralled in the play

 Vaneshran Sixface played various characters as well as the guitar,

Thabung our wonderful Lion narrator 

The kids ended by running and hugging the crocodile - Thank goodness!

Richard taking more pictures as the kids came together to hug the animals from the play - its all about social media ;-)

Loamie played our mouse and other forest creatures
We all share soup and rolls ...

Jen with one of the kids who fell in love with her, did not want to move from her lap

Rox, Benita, Vanessa and Thabung

My lovely friend Sakhumzi taking pictures

 

Sakura, Shanna and Guto

Dean handing out soup: "Sorry Sipho we only have chicken and veg"

"So you strum it like this..." 

Richard having a conversation about the importance of social media: So kid's you need to just get on the internet and tune into 2oceansvibe Radio as often as possible" 
"Well, kind of, you'll get there just keep practicing"
"I cant, I just cant do it, I cant look at your face anymore"

"Ah look at Sipho trying to hide from Susana"

"I don't know what to do, it's not my fault, I only have this face"

Soccer time with the amanita (the boyz)

Jen: "Ok you can have another sweet little girl"     "Um Benita, they for the kids"

Sakura: "So you smack your hands together         Kelly: "One for you, and one for you, and    

and it makes a clapping sound"                               one for - woops ok I'll have to go get more"

Shanna: "You might want to take the 

sweets out of your hands first"

Vanessa: "Aidan you really scared those poor kids"
Aidan: "Personally I think they handled it really well"
Marlize: "Ah thats sweet, you sharing"

Susana: "Look Mamzi, its christmas!!!"

Mamzi: "OOOOoooo Hi-Bo, sisi it really is!"

In the kitchen with Dan Skinstad, he even washed my soup pot! Good Man!

Handing out sweets with my sister Kiki

A massive THANK YOU to 2oceansvibe and everyone that came out to Gugs or donated goods and made Mandela Day so special, Sakhumzi Mati, 


Thabang Ruff Sidloyi, Marlize Swanepoel,Richard Hardiman, Benita Doria, Daniel Green,Kelly Sweet, Rita Chang, Aidan Whytock,Roxanne Bennett, Vanessa Lara Wood, Marlize Swanepoel, Dan Skinstad, Jen Stevens, Sakura Butler, Vaneshran Sixface, Shanna Freedman,Loamie Van Rhyn, Guto Bussab, Kristen Kennedy, Dax Fine and Dean Delaney.

I deeply hope that this experience has inspired you all to make  Madela Day a regular habit.

My long term goal for the community the is to help buy the property that the crèche is on, so that it can be converted into a self sustaining community center. It is currently owned by a minister in the UK and he is asking a ridiculous price for it, which we are hoping to negotiate down.

There are currently on going needs of supplies as well so if you can help in any way or if you know of any sponsors that may want to come on board and assist on this project we would be extremely grateful, please e-mail me on info@susanakennedy.com

To 2oceansvibe and all my incredible friends, Thank you again from the bottom of my heart for all your support and enthusiasm, it will be forever remembered. Please feel free to share this post, send feed back and comments and have a wonderful week!