"Dolce far niente"

Italian [ˈdoltʃe far ˈnjɛnte]
[literally: sweet doing nothing]

My next challenge may sound simple but I wonder how many of you will battle to actually do it. I challenge you to pick a day, one single day, where you refuse to make any arrangements. None, not one. That's the first part, the second part is to not set your alarm and just wake up when you wake up...(if you have children book a night away and get a baby sitting or you do it one weekend and your partner can do it the next or the next) 

When you wake up, stop yourself from falling into your daily rutine, stop, think, what do I feel like doing right now? Now remeber you have no plans for the entire day, so whatever it is, you can do it. If you feel like going back to sleep, do, if you feel like flapjacks and mascarpone cheese with fresh strawberries and dark roasted coffee with full cream, have it, if you want to go for a walk, do it. 

Eat eactly what you feel like with no care for calery counting or convention, do whatever you want, but do it by yourself, give yourself time to sit in silence... alow your mind to wonder and drift and go wherever it wants to go. Sit at a side road cafe or coffee shop, read the paper or an actual book and sip on full flavored full bodied red wine or a chocolate milkshake. Listen to music that fills your heart and makes you want to sing and dance, and then sing and dance, do it, who cares if someones watching, do it because you want to and because it make you happy!

Remember happiness, like laughter, is contagious, 

so feel it openly!

Achieve nothing for a whole day except doing what gives you pleasure, enjoy it, embrace pleasure, you are worth it and you deserve it. This is not wasting time, this is "the sweet art of doing nothing", "Dolce far niente" and its your turn to enjoy it, no excuses make it happen,  Happy You Day!

Just a thought... Being in a relationship means you need to be brave...

Be brave, being in a relationship today, means being big enough and honest enough to realize that who ever you are with, will have faults, and you will have to accept those faults. And in return, that person will have to accept that you have faults too and will have to accept them too… and possibly the most difficult of all, you are going to have to look at your self honestly, admit to your faults and then work at them and compromise so that you become someone that the person you love can live with… As difficult and hard and tiresome as this sounds, don’t you think that’s the point, to find our humanity through love, and to be made the best possible version of who we can be, and them the best possible version of who they can be, by choosing to share our life by loving another human being… it is the most difficult, challenging, selfish and selfless thing we can do… and yet life without love, is a life not lived at all.

At the end of the day, putting the other persons need above your own, even when you really don't want to, compromising, putting up with each others crap, fighting, forgiving, laughing, comforting, being 'in love', to 'not being your favorite person at the moment' and not leaving, choosing ‘this life’ because you know that at the end of the day that person makes you the best version of you, you can be and you do the same for them... a relationship that lasts, that goes the distance, is so rare and fragile and requires a large amount of bravery, but That Is True Love... and that Is a Big Deal.