Words to make you smile...

I know I haven't written for a while, 

I promise to write again soon, in the mean time be happy :-) 

The Grass May be Greener on the Other side BUT...

In life everyone is constantly in search of the illusive greener grass that lies ‘on the other side’, most of us are too scared to take a moment and look around us to see the gifts that lie at our finger tips, we are afraid that the gifts that life is offering us will not measure up to our expectations or we will not be able to hold onto them, so with tunnel vision we continue our search for the illusive greener pastures which may lie somewhere in the distance.

The grass may always be greener on the other side, but the secret is to look around you and realize that although it may be greener, you are surrounded by opportunities to create an abundance of fragrant flower beds, exquisite large shady tree’s and soft warm mossy ground beneath them, where grass cannot grow but warmth, comfort and love can flourish... 

The secret is to look around you and acknowledge the gift offering that life sends your way and stop feeling upset because you don’t have the illusive ‘green grass’ which everyone is searching for. 

The secret is to see all the incredible gifts and opportunities you do have and to take them, to be grateful and happy and rejoice in them, treasuring and nurturing  them so that they will not feel neglected and slip away... 

If you can do that, one day you may just wake up and realize that, ‘that green grass on the other side’, pales in comparison to the beauty that is your life.

"Dolce far niente"

Italian [ˈdoltʃe far ˈnjɛnte]
[literally: sweet doing nothing]

My next challenge may sound simple but I wonder how many of you will battle to actually do it. I challenge you to pick a day, one single day, where you refuse to make any arrangements. None, not one. That's the first part, the second part is to not set your alarm and just wake up when you wake up...(if you have children book a night away and get a baby sitting or you do it one weekend and your partner can do it the next or the next) 

When you wake up, stop yourself from falling into your daily rutine, stop, think, what do I feel like doing right now? Now remeber you have no plans for the entire day, so whatever it is, you can do it. If you feel like going back to sleep, do, if you feel like flapjacks and mascarpone cheese with fresh strawberries and dark roasted coffee with full cream, have it, if you want to go for a walk, do it. 

Eat eactly what you feel like with no care for calery counting or convention, do whatever you want, but do it by yourself, give yourself time to sit in silence... alow your mind to wonder and drift and go wherever it wants to go. Sit at a side road cafe or coffee shop, read the paper or an actual book and sip on full flavored full bodied red wine or a chocolate milkshake. Listen to music that fills your heart and makes you want to sing and dance, and then sing and dance, do it, who cares if someones watching, do it because you want to and because it make you happy!

Remember happiness, like laughter, is contagious, 

so feel it openly!

Achieve nothing for a whole day except doing what gives you pleasure, enjoy it, embrace pleasure, you are worth it and you deserve it. This is not wasting time, this is "the sweet art of doing nothing", "Dolce far niente" and its your turn to enjoy it, no excuses make it happen,  Happy You Day!

Just a thought... Being in a relationship means you need to be brave...

Be brave, being in a relationship today, means being big enough and honest enough to realize that who ever you are with, will have faults, and you will have to accept those faults. And in return, that person will have to accept that you have faults too and will have to accept them too… and possibly the most difficult of all, you are going to have to look at your self honestly, admit to your faults and then work at them and compromise so that you become someone that the person you love can live with… As difficult and hard and tiresome as this sounds, don’t you think that’s the point, to find our humanity through love, and to be made the best possible version of who we can be, and them the best possible version of who they can be, by choosing to share our life by loving another human being… it is the most difficult, challenging, selfish and selfless thing we can do… and yet life without love, is a life not lived at all.

At the end of the day, putting the other persons need above your own, even when you really don't want to, compromising, putting up with each others crap, fighting, forgiving, laughing, comforting, being 'in love', to 'not being your favorite person at the moment' and not leaving, choosing ‘this life’ because you know that at the end of the day that person makes you the best version of you, you can be and you do the same for them... a relationship that lasts, that goes the distance, is so rare and fragile and requires a large amount of bravery, but That Is True Love... and that Is a Big Deal.

Life...

Live a Life you Love...

I am sorry I have been away for so long, its been quite a month... filled with salty water... to be honest, I have produced it all from my eyes... I have lost a friend and closed a 14 year chapter ... and although its been truly rough, it has shown me it is time for the new and boy am I ready!

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I am right now, for possibly the first time in my life, truly deeply living in the now... 

and life, my life, is absolutely fantastic! 

I am so lucky, I am surrounded by such incredible interesting, brilliant people and friends and family.

I am living my dream working in the film industry with 

wonderful opportunities constantly coming my way. 

I am happy, truly happy. 

I realized a while ago that the knocks in life are 

merely opportunities to look at your life, 

change what you don't like 

and focus and rejoice in all the incredible gifts you already have.

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So today I challenge you again, 

be gateful for all the gifts in your life, make the most of it, 

it is fleeting and fantastic, so enjoy it!

For after all, it is not the amount of years that we spend on the earth that matters 

but rather how many people's lives you touch within those years...

I know its corny but "be the change you want to see", be happy, make a difference, smile 

and Live a Life you Love.

Have a great week!!!

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Be the rainbow at the end of someone elses road…

Life is a journey of ups and downs, often when we as human beings it is very easy to become enveloped by our own situations, mini crisis’s and joy. This can lead to jumping to conclusions as to what others are going through or why they react in a certain way. How often when you say: “How are you?” do you actually listen to the answer or care?

I have a friend who has been going through a truly tough time, she works everyday, has a child who has recently gone through such a horrifying ordeal; we feared we might loose her. To add to this after working a full day, and worrying about her child’s life, she then goes home to care for her bedridden mother.

She hates to cook and so my fantastic mum dropped off a macaroni cheese one night, she was so appreciative, I asked a friend to drop off a lasagna another night and then I made her soup for dinner another night, with teary eyes she expressed her gratitude, she was so grateful not to have tocook, not to have another thing to worry about, that that little bit of effort went a loooooooooong way.

So I challenge you all in the next few weeks to mean it when ask someone how “they are” and to take a few minutes out of your week to do something small for someone else, for you it will be easy and simple but for them it could mean the world, and who knows maybe one day the favor will be returned and even if it isn’t, I bet it will make you feel fantastic!

Have a happy week and be the rainbow at the end of someone elses road…

Ps. Her child is finally on the road to recovery, but I might just drop off some supper at some point this week anyway :-)